Funny conversation starters
Ready-to-use lines that get a laugh, show a bit of personality and invite your match to join in, without sounding scripted.
20 starters to use
1.If you had to describe your week as a weather forecast, what would it be?
It's playful, takes seconds to answer and gives you a picture to riff on.
2.What's the most useless skill you're quietly proud of?
It invites a harmless boast and gives permission to be a bit daft.
3.I spent ten minutes choosing between two identical grey socks this morning. What's the biggest decision you've dodged today?
The small confession lowers the stakes and makes it easy for them to admit something similar.
4.Rank these for a rainy Sunday: a long film, a jigsaw, a very ambitious sandwich.
It's a tiny hypothetical with no wrong answer, and the ranking invites them to argue.
5.What's one small thing that reliably improves your day?
It's warm and easy, and the answers are often revealing in a lovely way.
6.If your hometown had a signature dish made from whatever's in the fridge, what would be in it?
It's nonsense with a story attached, which is exactly the right kind of nonsense.
7.I have a theory that everyone has one food they'd defend in court. What's yours?
Asking them to make a case invites them into the joke rather than leaving them watching it.
8.What's a hobby you gave up and secretly want to start again?
It's kind and reflective, and it usually gets a proper answer.
9.Would you rather be early and smug or late and unbothered, and how strongly do you defend it?
It's a harmless preference question with room for mock seriousness.
10.What's the best piece of terrible advice you've ever been given?
It's funny without being at anyone's expense, and it opens a story.
11.My proudest achievement this week was building a shelf without swearing. What's yours?
Gentle self-deprecation gives them an easy, equal footing.
12.If you could only listen to one album for a month, what would it be, and would you regret it by week three?
It invites a genuine opinion plus a bit of comedy about the aftermath.
13.What's a much-loved film you've somehow never seen, and are you ready to be judged?
The mock trial framing makes a confession funny instead of awkward.
14.Describe your ideal Saturday in three words. No cheating.
The constraint is what makes it funny, and three words are easy to send back.
15.What's the strangest thing on your bookshelf or in your kitchen drawer?
It's curiosity with a comic edge, and everyone has something.
16.I'm assembling a very low-stakes quiz. What's one thing you know far too much about?
It hands them a chance to shine without any pressure to impress.
17.What's your go-to song when nobody's listening, and how badly do you deliver it?
It invites silliness with no obligation to actually sing.
18.What's a rule you've made for yourself that you now find ridiculous?
It's self-aware, funny and gives them room to be honest.
19.What's a tiny thing you're weirdly competitive about?
Everyone has one, and admitting it is instantly likeable.
20.If we were sorting out a picnic, what's the one thing you'd insist on bringing?
It's a gentle, funny way to gesture at meeting up without making it a big ask.
Why these work
Humour is the quickest way to sound like a person rather than a profile, but the aim isn't a performance. The lines that land make it easy for your match to answer and easy for them to add something back. Think of a good starter as an open door with the light on, not a joke you have to get right.
Playful hypotheticals work because they ask nothing real. Nobody has to disclose anything, yet the answer tells you how someone thinks and whether they enjoy a bit of nonsense. They also don't rely on shared references, so a question about a rainy Sunday travels well whether you grew up in the same city or on different continents.
Gentle self-deprecation lowers the stakes: admit to a ten-minute sock decision and you signal that the conversation doesn't have to be impressive. Jokes that invite your match in are the best of the lot, because a line they can top or argue with makes it a conversation with two people in it.
How to use them without sounding scripted
Treat every line as a shape rather than a script, and change the details until the sentence is true for you. The funny part is usually the specific, real thing rather than the polished one. Read it aloud before you send it; if you wouldn't say it in that voice, rewrite it.
Send one thing, then wait. Three jokes in a row reads as nerves and gives your match nothing to hold on to. If they answer with a joke, add one back; if they answer plainly, take the hint and ask a real question about what they said.
Pick your moment, since people usually have more room for silliness in the evening than in the middle of a working day. If a reply is slow, that's information about their day rather than a verdict on your joke. Keep the humour close to your own life, because detail is what makes a line sound like a person, and note anything that gets an actual laugh so you can come back to it later in the week.
What to avoid
Leave out anything at someone else's expense: exes, colleagues, strangers, whole groups of people. It's the quickest way to make a match wonder how you'll talk about them one day. Gentle self-deprecation is different, because it includes you in the joke rather than putting anyone below it.
Hold back on innuendo early on. It shifts the tone somewhere your match hasn't agreed to go, and it often lands as pressure rather than fun. Don't send a meme or a video instead of words either; a picture can be funny, but it's hard to answer and it hands the work of keeping things going back to them.
Skip the apology afterwards, because a quick sorry for being weird deflates a joke faster than a flat reply does. And avoid humour about anyone's body, accent, job or income, however light you think it is, as there's no version of that which reads as kind.
Moving from talking to meeting
When you've had a few exchanges where the jokes went both ways, suggest something small rather than waiting for a perfect moment. Laughter over text is a good sign, not a reason to keep texting for weeks. Offer a short, public meeting: a coffee, a wander round a weekend market, a walk along a busy waterfront promenade, or a museum with free entry days if you fancy something to talk about.
Give two options and say what suits you, so your match can meet you halfway, and keep the first meeting short on purpose. An hour with somewhere to be afterwards is easier to say yes to. Choose somewhere you can hear each other, since the talking is the point.
Arrange your own way there and back, tell a friend where you'll be and roughly when you'll finish, and arrive with a plan for leaving when you want to. Bring the funny thread with you: one of the hypotheticals makes a fine in-person question, and referring back to a message joke picks things up quickly. Ending on a high is a good move, so leave while it's still going well and you'll both have something to look forward to.
Questions people ask
How do I break the ice with a funny message?
Start with something small, specific and easy to answer, such as a playful hypothetical about their week or a confession about your own tiny disaster. Keep it to a couple of sentences and end with a question so there's an obvious way in.
What should I do if my joke gets a flat reply?
Don't apologise or pile on another joke. Ask a sincere question about something they mentioned and let the conversation reset, since plenty of funny people send a plain reply when they're busy.
How soon should I suggest meeting in person?
Once you've had a few exchanges where you're both adding to the jokes, suggest a short public meeting rather than waiting for a perfect moment. A coffee or a walk with a clear end time is easier to say yes to than a whole evening.
Can I reuse the same opener with different matches?
You can, but adjust it to fit what you actually know about the person, because the details are what make a line sound written for them. A starter that mentions something from their photos or their answers almost always reads better than a copy-and-paste.
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The situation, what works and what to avoid are 6on7's own editorial brief for this guide. The written guide is drafted with AI from these facts and checked automatically before it is published.