Advice
Dating, without the nonsense
Practical answers about meeting people - safety, first dates, conversations, and what to do when it all gets tiring. Written to be useful whether or not you ever make an account here. Nothing on these pages is a sales pitch with a question mark on the end.
How to tell whether someone is genuine
The seven signals that actually predict a fake or a scam, ranked by how reliable they are, and the two that everybody overrates.
Read itA first date that is worth the effort
Where to go, how long to stay, what to tell a friend, and why the best first dates are shorter than most people plan for.
Read itHow to open a conversation that goes somewhere
Why 'hey' fails, why commenting on a photo rarely works, and the one thing a good opener has in common across every message that gets a reply.
Read itWhat to do when dating has worn you down
The signs that it is the process rather than you, how to change the process, and when the right move is to stop for a while.
Read itReading what people say about someone
How to weight a review, what a pattern means versus a one-off, and the difference between a bad date and a bad person.
Read itDeciding what to share, and when
Photos, videos, where you live, what you do. A simple order of operations that keeps the things that matter private until they matter.
Read itWhy we write this
Most dating advice online exists to get you to sign up for something. This exists because a dating site that helps you have better conversations, safer dates and a clearer idea of what you want is a dating site that works - whether the person having the good date met someone here or somewhere else. If you only ever read these pages and never join, that is a fine outcome.
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