Deciding what to share, and when
The useful way to think about sharing is not what is safe but what is reversible. Almost every problem in this area comes from something that could not be taken back.
The order that usually works
Share in this order, and stop wherever you feel like stopping. Nothing below the first two is ever required.
- A photo and a short description. Nothing here identifies where you live.
- General area rather than a precise location - a city, not a street.
- A conversation about what you are both looking for.
- A public meeting somewhere you can leave from.
- Your workplace or industry, once you have met and you want to.
- Anything more intimate, once there is a reason and after you have met.
The things that are hard to undo
A photograph sent privately can be copied. A screen can be photographed by another phone. A precise home location cannot be un-known. Treat anything in that category as something you are sharing permanently, and decide whether you are comfortable with that before you send it rather than afterwards.
This is not a reason to share nothing. It is a reason to share deliberately rather than in the flow of a good conversation at one in the morning.
You can say no without explaining
If somebody pushes for a photo, an address, or a move to another app before you are ready, you do not need to justify declining. A person who reacts badly to a boundary has told you something useful, and it is much cheaper to find out now than later.
On 6on7 your photos, videos and reviews stay in a private collection that nobody sees until you accept a request for it. You choose how long the access lasts, how many times it can be opened, and you can revoke it at any moment.